"The Returnee..."

We are in the middle of a roller coaster of transition. We left Uganda on 1st July, and travelled to visit Dan's family in America... Now we arrive in England, where I have not lived since 1992, almost twenty years ago... I left young free and single, and return with an American husband and two children, aged 11 and 9... I hope to describe the experiences of "the Returnee", with, no doubt, flashbacks to our African life, and commentary from my children along the way...
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Wednesday, 12 June 2013

Rats!


You know I have always been a fan of pets. We have had a respectable list since Abby and Alex arrived - multiple cats and kittens, pint-sized tortoises, a chameleon, fish, more fish, beautiful hamsters, A Dog, three mice... and most recently, two gerbils and two rats.

Pets are the best. They are lovable, dependable, grateful, cuddly, friendly, funny, shaggy, and beautiful, in varying measures.

Pets teach children to look after another being. They teach children the values of loyalty and friendship, and tolerance (by modeling them). Children learn to take responsibility, to remember to feed the creature that depends on them, and to persevere in keeping their territory clean. Many times children don't remember and don't persevere, of course, but eventually they get the hang of it.

But still, rats... I was a bit reluctant, to put it mildly, when we embarked on the rats. Especially when we discovered they would need an enormous cage for them. EBay came up with the goods though, so, we moved on in the ratward direction. When Dan and Alex came home with two male Dumbo rats, they were shy to tell me why the males were available while all the females were gone... male dumbo rats carry the most enormous testes under their tail! Oh well, we politely ignore them.

Otherwise, the rats are cuter than I had anticipated. These rats have white bodies and black head and shoulders - so they look like they are wearing medieval hoods. They are quite handsome really. They are called Sneaky, and Spotsy. They will play and sit on people's shoulders, but at the moment they are still scared and scurry for their little log house when we come close to the cage.

Meanwhile Abby has two gorgeous gerbils, Peanut and Conker. They are far prettier, with furry tails and bright semispherical eyes. I love the gerbils! They spend all day springing in their wheel until they tire and fall out, and pawing through their food bowl; they burrow into the sawdust to rest and crawl out all sleepy-eyed and adorable.

I doubt the rats will win me over as the gerbils have, but, you never know.





Friday, 3 August 2012

A fleeting dream and a realisation...

So after a whole wonderful week of being a young, free couple again, we collected our two best-beloveds from my parents, first spending two days all together in Devon before bringing them home.



Yesterday we dipped happily again into the Tudor history of England - I had forgotten how close all our colourful and varied history is and how much of it is preserved here.  We went to an ancient house called Buckland Abbey in Devon - originally in the 1200s a monastery, then owned in the 1600s by Sir Francis Drake (an explorer, naval captain, friend and defender of Elizabeth I, victor over the Spanish Armada, first circumnavigator of the globe, treasure-seeker, bowls-player). Now it is owned by the National Trust and is full of Tudor furniture and artefacts and is beautiful.

This is Abigail dressed in Tudor clothes, in front of a portrait of Sir Francis Drake.
On the way into the Abbey, there were various panels depicting some of its history.

One of them described the original function of the place as a Cistercian monastery, with the words: "The monks lived here a life of peace, discipline and dedication."

Those words flowed through my soul and body like warm oil, or, like a long soothing sip of hot tea...
oh, to have our home be a place of "peace, discipline and dedication"... 

I mentioned this to Abby, Alex and my Mum who were standing with me, and we all just laughed. OK, we all know which of us would have the most trouble with "peace" (Alex, our real boy) but I have to admit that the "discipline" would be hardest for me, not least the getting up at 2.00 am for prayers... 

Coming back home this evening, I have been surveying our cosy, untidy home with a new eye. I could look at it as a place that badly needs organising, cleaning up, and hoovering. I could wish that the TV wasn't yakkering on with the Olympics every minute right now, and that Alex would be a bit quieter and more relaxed, and that it was all peaceful and clean... but then again, I was not called to live in a monastery after all, I am a mother of two fun, energetic and creative children and wife of a husband, ditto. I am happy with that, and I love our home.